On any given weekday, an average of 60 U.S. servicemen and women get divorced. “Max” and “Abby,” not their real names, are separated by more than 7,000 miles while he’s deployed with the U.S. Navy to Okinawa. Max is hoping – more than hoping – an exercise known as the PAIRS Daily Temperature Reading helps him protect his own marriage and family while he’s a world away.
Good morning baby, I appreciate you getting me to take life by the horns.
I am concerned with how our next conversation is going to go. To be honest, I worry about that every day.
I am concerned with not just being able to like who I see in the mirror, but how YOU and the kids see me.
Being married to you is my dream and I don’t want to keep screwing things up.
It makes me feel like I have a cheerleader in my corner cheering me on.
I appreciate how generous you are. You have taught me a lot about how to give of one’s self.
It makes me feel like my whole world is on a teeter totter.
To be perfectly honest, I am scared as hell with what I will find.
I love you dearly and wish all these problems would just disappear, but I know that is a pipe dream.
I don’t want to disappoint you again and I am going to bust my ass to make sure that you are not.
Mostly, I appreciate you just talking to me and keeping me in your life!
I need to be there to help you out. I need to be with you in general.
This is what I’m talking about when I say that I don’t feel like I can tell you sometimes what I’m feeling.
I appreciate all the time you spent talking with me today and I appreciate you wanting to talk to me.
Whatever we decide to talk about I just don’t wanted it to turn into an argument.
I wish I were there to help you out. I really do. I know you need help.
Just felt really good to just have a normal conversation with you and I appreciate it.
It feels like we are on a sinking boat. I hate it.
I’m not about to give up. Ever.
It’s part of the new me, not getting pushed around by anyone.
I know I don’t like most of what you are saying, but I guess I need to hear them.
I am puzzled by where we stand. I don’t want a divorce. But I don’t want to make you miserable.
While we are not happy with each other, I still appreciate you and all that you do for me, the kids and all of us.
Once I really got to thinking about things, I realized just why you were mad and why you were SO mad.
I don’t want us to grow apart; I guess is what I am saying.
Are they prepared at ALL to live on their own? I would think not.
I am puzzled by how you are! I missed talking to you!
I am puzzled by how all three of you are doing.
I’m with you on this and I agree that they need to do that before they get another thing from us.
I appreciate you telling the kids to apologize to me. That meant a lot to me.
I am looking forward to our Facetime because I get to see you instead of the ceiling! I miss you terribly…which is why I guess this is such a crappy DTR. I just want to be with you.
Everywhere I look I see you and I know that I would not be nearly as much without you. You are my inspiration and my motivation.
It means a lot to me that you continue to encourage me…Sometimes sweetly, sometimes not, but you always know just what to say to keep me motivated.
Hey baby, I appreciate you joking around with me. It is nice to know that we can still make each other laugh.
I am concerned with you getting the kids motivated to do anything. I know that you are doing what you can, but it doesn’t seem to be working.
I am concerned by my lack of ability to communicate with you. It seems I can talk to anyone, EVERYONE, except you. And I have no idea why. That concerns me and makes me angry and makes me sad and worried all at the same time.
I am puzzled with where do we go from here? I mean, are we going to need a mediator to talk? Good lord I hope not.
I love you and love everything you do for me, for the kids and for the family as a whole. You rock.
I am concerned with how we can’t seem to have any sort of conversation without it devolving into an argument. That is pretty shitty of us. We are better people and we are actually nicer people than we show to each other.
I am concerned with everything. I am starting to know how you feel on a daily basis, with more to do than time in which to do it.
I am puzzled by what you think of how I am doing? I mean, besides the money thing.
Getting us fixed is my only major concern. Without you I’m nothing and I don’t want to lose you.
I don’t want us to be broken and constantly arguing over everything under the sun. It sucks. It hurts. It’s crazy. We are better than this.
I know that a relationship takes work and that things and people change. So what I write is not going to be carved in stone … it WILL be a roadmap though, a template so that I can show you better my love for you.
I appreciate the long talk today, it really helped me to see not only how I have screwed things up and how you feel, but also how I can work on correcting things…
I am concerned, as always, with us. The space between us is growing and it scares me to death.
I guess I am puzzled by why I seem to keep pissing you off.
I’m concerned about you being frustrated all the time. If it’s not the kids, it’s me and not me then your work. We need to find a way to get you to release some stress.
I am puzzled by what we are going to do about the kids. How does one instill a sense of responsibility or ownership or whatever in teenagers?
I am having to go over things with him with a fine tooth comb, write letters of explanation and basically justify and account for every red cent dealing with the whole f’ing move here and the tdy. it is a royal pain in the butt, but in the end it will be worth it.
I appreciate you motivating me to not only get things done, but to do the right thing and to work as hard as I can. You are my inspiration.
I am concerned with us not getting much better … I wish I were home!
I’m sick of having a long distance relationship with my wife. I know that we have been distant even in the same room, but we are going to solve that. Now we just need to figure out how to be physically together.
We don’t talk! As the time gets longer between talking like friends and lovers, it just seems to get harder … I will have to dig deeper and figure something out.
I am deeply concerned with the thought that we are “growing apart.” I always knew that we would change as we got older and that with that change we would have to adapt … but this is ridiculous! It scares me to death.
The idea of NOT being married to you makes me feel like someone has walked over my grave. Not because I am scared of being alone, but because I am scared of not being with you.
I like that you are trying to do your best to not shut the door on me. I can see how you are trying to see if I am going to screw you over again and I assure you I am NOT!
I am concerned with you saying that the longer I am gone, the easier it is for you to just let me go.
I am puzzled by what is going on with you there. I mean, why can’t we talk to each other? It’s nuts.
I know that you say that I have squandered my time to talk, but some of it is that I don’t want to just jump right into things.