Another common love knot ….

If you tell me what you want,

I feel controlled or obligated to do what you want.

When I feel controlled,

I feel weak and inadequate.

I cannot give you what you ask for

without feeling resentful.

If you tell me your feelings,

I must do what you want.

That would interfere with doing what I want (think, feel, am doing).

So I don’t want to hear or know your feelings

~ Lori Heyman Gordon