After the hand massage, it can be helpful to journal or share with another person your answers to these sentence stems.

• Mother gave me the sense that my body was…
• Mother gave me the sense that sex was…
• Mother gave me a view of men as…
• Mother gave me the sense that love was…
• When Mother touched or held me, I felt…
• Father gave me the sense that my body was…
• Father gave me the sense that sex was…
• Father gave me a view of men as…
• Father gave me the sense that love was…
• One of the unspoken messages I got from Father about love was…
• When my Father touched or held me, I felt…
• I am becoming aware…
• I am beginning to suspect…
• If it turns out I don’t need my parent’s permission to be a sexual being…
• If I were fully willing to own and experience my own sexuality…
• If I were fully accepting of my own body…
• If I were to admit how much I enjoy sex…
• If I didn’t ever worry about my masculinity/femininity…

~ Harville Hendrix