- Let go of anger daily. Forgive daily.
- Express affection and love daily, in words and touch.
- Make your bedroom an oasis, with music, art, candles – no business, work, fights
- Be relaxed and squeaky clean, take a bubble bath, use warm massage oil
- Make time – morning, early afternoon, early evening, an entire evening
- Bond to begin and end each day. Start and end each day feeling good. Skin is the largest organ of pleasure and sensuality.
- Allow your spontaneous, free child to play. Be playful, silly, use pet names, endearments, sex toys, fantasy games
- Sleep nude. Muriel James states that you can make up for not getting enough touching in childhood by sleeping nude nightly with your partner.
- Make sensual dates and be spontaneous sexually
- Let go of expectations. Forget simultaneous orgasms. Forget orgasms.
- Sometimes, allow the pleasure to be focused on one partner.
- Slow, gentle, slow, slow, slow. Make love lazily.
- Make sounds, be noisy. Be yourself. Don’t withhold. Don’t pretend.
- BE HERE NOW. Give your full, conscious attention to loving your partner.
- Sex is for love. Don’t use it for manipulation or withhold it for revenge.
- Blue balls are a myth. You can make love without sexual intercourse.
- Talk about sex at times when you’re not making love.
- Don’t eat or drink too much.
- Teach each other what you like by showing each other.
- Instead of “fore” and “after” play, accept (change of attitude) that it’s all “making love.”
- Rituals are good for the heart and
- The entire body craves touch. Don’t fixate on genitals. Love other parts of the body before genitals; face, feet, legs buttocks, hair, ears, neck, back…
- Lovers need to nourish their love by spending a lot of time together. Give up addictions, including workaholism.
