Recommendations for enhanced lovemaking

  • Let go of anger daily. Forgive daily.
  • Express affection and love daily, in words and touch.
  • Make your bedroom an oasis, with music, art, candles – no business, work, fights
  • Be relaxed and squeaky clean, take a bubble bath, use warm massage oil
  • Make time – morning, early afternoon, early evening, an entire evening
  • Bond to begin and end each day. Start and end each day feeling good.  Skin is the largest organ of pleasure and sensuality.
  • Allow your spontaneous, free child to play. Be playful, silly, use pet names, endearments, sex toys, fantasy games
  • Sleep nude. Muriel James states that you can make up for not getting enough touching in childhood by sleeping nude nightly with your partner.
  • Make sensual dates and be spontaneous sexually
  • Let go of expectations. Forget simultaneous orgasms.  Forget orgasms.
  • Sometimes, allow the pleasure to be focused on one partner.
  • Slow, gentle, slow, slow, slow. Make love lazily.
  • Make sounds, be noisy.   Be yourself.  Don’t withhold.  Don’t pretend.
  • BE HERE NOW.  Give your full, conscious attention to loving your partner.
  • Sex is for love. Don’t use it for manipulation or withhold it for revenge.
  • Blue balls are a myth. You can make love without sexual intercourse.
  • Talk about sex at times when you’re not making love.
  • Don’t eat or drink too much.
  • Teach each other what you like by showing each other.
  • Instead of “fore” and “after” play, accept (change of attitude) that it’s all “making love.”
  • Rituals are good for the heart and
  • The entire body craves touch. Don’t fixate on genitals. Love other parts of the body before genitals; face, feet, legs buttocks, hair, ears, neck, back…
  • Lovers need to nourish their love by spending a lot of time together. Give up addictions, including workaholism.

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