Love knots are faulty assumptions that sabotage intimacy. They may seem true, but upon closer examination, we realize they aren’t based on rationale expectations.
Consider one of the most common: “If you really loved me …”
If you really loved me,
you would know what I want,
and you would do it.
Since you don’t,
you obviously don’t care.
(So why should I care for you, or for what you think, feel, say, want, or do?
When you tell me what you want,
I won’t be very interested.
(I will be withholding.)
~ Lori Heyman Gordon