Love knots are faulty assumptions that sabotage intimacy. They may seem true, but upon closer examination, we realize they aren’t based on rationale expectations.

Consider one of the most common: “If you really loved me …”

If you really loved me,

you would know what I want,

and you would do it.

Since you don’t,

you obviously don’t care.

(So why should I care for you, or for what you think, feel, say, want, or do?

When you tell me what you want,

I won’t be very interested.

(I will be withholding.)

~ Lori Heyman Gordon