If you really loved me

Love knots are faulty assumptions that sabotage intimacy. They may seem true, but upon closer examination, we realize they aren’t based on rationale expectations.

Consider one of the most common: “If you really loved me …”

If you really loved me,

you would know what I want,

and you would do it.

Since you don’t,

you obviously don’t care.

(So why should I care for you, or for what you think, feel, say, want, or do?

When you tell me what you want,

I won’t be very interested.

(I will be withholding.)

~ Lori Heyman Gordon

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