Stress and the bedroom

Is stress causing problems in your bedroom? How many of the following questions do you answer in the affirmative? Does sex seem like more trouble than it’s worth? Do household chores and office responsibilities get in the way of sexual activity? Do you think about these responsibilities while you are making love? Do you feel…

Eroticism and lovemaking

Nowhere is it more important to consciously know and understand what gives pleasure to your partner than in the bedroom.

Early messages about sensuality

After the hand massage, it can be helpful to journal or share with another person your answers to these sentence stems. Mother gave me the sense that my body was… Mother gave me the sense that sex was… Mother gave me a view of men as… Mother gave me the sense that love was… When Mother…

Recognizing and dealing with jealousy

It is said that if we have high self-esteem, we will tend to be less jealous. This is in some measure true. It is also true that jealousy can be a cause of low self-esteem, as well as the result of it. Given a situation in which one feels outdone by a rival, in which…

Security?

There is no such thing as security. There never has been.

Jealousy: the most destructive issue in intimacy

Jealousy is so often a destructive issue in intimacy. Jealousy and envy may be the least understood of the emotions and are, potentially, the most devastating to intimate relationships. Their manifestations can be so subtle and covert that we may be able to recognize them only in retrospect, long after they have done their damage. Jealousy…

Warriors to soulmates

From Warrior to Soul Mate is a unique and important program helping many of America’s Veterans strengthen the health of their families.

Emotional levels of maturity

At various times we all function at different levels of maturity. This is particularly true of intimate relationships and often varies markedly from our functioning in the workplace. At different times in close relationships we may function like an emotional infant, child, adolescent or adult depending on the circumstances and our own personality. The chronological…

Behaviors, attitudes and love

When our needs are met, we feel pleasure. When our need for bonding is met, our feeling of pleasure can become attached to the person who meets that need. If one person meets our need for bonding, and perhaps other needs as well, the pleasure intensifies and becomes the feeling we call love. When we…

Love’s acceptors and rejectors

Some people have decided at some point that the price of love is too high; we call them rejectors. They act as if, “No matter what you do, I won’t love you.” Others we call acceptors. They are willing to pay any price for love, put up with any pain for the hope of being…