“Max” and “Abby,” not their real names, are separated by more than 7,000 miles while he’s deployed with the U.S. Navy to Okinawa, where more than 50,000 U.S. military personnel are based. Abby and the children remained in the United States.
The couple have struggled to stay connected during their time apart using an exercise known as the PAIRS Daily Temperature Reading (“DTR”). The DTR, originally inspired by the late Virginia Satir, has been modified by PAIRS Foundation as a skill for helping couples and families proactively care for their relationships.
Despite more than 15 years of marriage, kids, and much they’ve built together, Max and Abby know the sacrifice of military service comes with unique challenges that could threaten the stability of their family. With encouragement from their Navy Chaplain, they made a commitment to using the PAIRS DTR as often as possible throughout their separation.
“Max” and “Abby” gave permission to share the parts of their life captured through emailed Daily Temperature Readings with the hope that their efforts to protect their marriage and family will encourage and help others too.