On guilt

Guilt is among the most destructive and devastating of human emotions. Because of its painfulness and its terrible impact on self-worth, guilt inclines one toward suppression, walls and denial. Denial causes dehumanization, a loss of the capacity for empathy for one’s partner or for others, and can manifest itself in a variety of insidious ways….

Effective communication is a requirement for problem solving

Effective communication is a requirement for effective problem solving in an intimate relationship.  While most of us communicate effectively in our work, effectiveness has a different meaning in an intimate relationship.  It is important to explore those different meanings. How we communicate is the problem more often than what we communicate.  If the ways we…

The new rules for relating

As western society moved into the 20th century, we came in with a very clearly prescribed way that males and females in marriage were to behave with one another.