If you really loved me

Love knots are faulty assumptions that sabotage intimacy. They may seem true, but upon closer examination, we realize they aren’t based on rationale expectations. Consider one of the most common: “If you really loved me …” If you really loved me, you would know what I want, and you would do it. Since you don’t, you…

The Handyman

If you are in pain, I believe I should be able to fix it. I don’t know how to fix it, so I feel inadequate. I get angry at you for making me feel inadequate. I withdraw from you and blame you when you are in pain. ~ Lori Heyman Gordon

Home alone

Another common love knot …. If you tell me what you want, I feel controlled or obligated to do what you want. When I feel controlled, I feel weak and inadequate.   I cannot give you what you ask for without feeling resentful.   If you tell me your feelings, I must do what you…